Creating Balance part 3 – Expanding on the grounding breath

Last week, I walked you through a technique for grounding your energy using a centered breath. This week I am going to expand upon it.

The Grounding Breath

I would once again recommend playing with these ideas while sitting. As your comfort levels grows feel free to play with the positions and modify the technique to better suit your personal needs.

Let’s start by finding a comfortable position and center.

Take several centered breathes and allow your body to begin to relax.

As your body relaxes, take a moment to feel your feet against the floor and your body in the chair.

Close your eyes and visualize dropping hollow tubes from your feet deep into the earth.

Take 3 centered breaths. On the third breath, exhale down through the tubes until the breath is deep in the earth, relax and let the inhale happen naturally.

Now, open your eyes and let the tubes dissolve. They are no longer necessary.

The tubes were simply a vehicle for moving the breath into the earth. Once we recognize that the breath will move freely through the earth the vehicle becomes unnecessary.

Once again, take a couple of centered breaths. Direct your exhales deep into the earth. At the end of your exhale, pause. Let your exhale be fully finished. Allow the inhale to happen automatically.

The ability to pause at the end of your exhale is essential. At this stage, there is nothing else required of you. Just sit there and be. The inhale will always happen fully and automatically.

Take several more breaths and feel the pause at the end of each exhale. Notice the space created by the pause. On your next exhale, sit within the space and allow yourself to separate from your breath.

This separation allows for many things. We can separate ourselves from the stress and confusion of the moment. We can use it to move pain and restrictions from the body. We can simply use it to find solace and comfort within mother earth.

Allow yourself to sit and breathe for several more minutes. With each breath, allow yourself to connect with the earth within the space created by your exhale.

Removing the tubes allows for this breath to be used anywhere. Try it walking, riding in a car, even flying. Once again, the more comfortable you are with the process, the more accessible it will be when you need it the most.

The Opportunity of Crisis

Jerry has said that in his practice he likes working with people who are injured, because they are willing to make changes. The injury is evidence that something they’re doing isn’t working.

Expanding that insight out into the greater world, you can see that a crisis of any sort is also an opportunity. A crisis is clear evidence that something isn’t working, clear evidence that something needs to change.

I assert that our country is in crisis. Even if you supported Trump, you are surely aware that the level of dismay, even anguish, among those who didn’t is profound. Every day, Trump nominates another hard-liner to his Cabinet. While doing so is certainly his prerogative, it’s worth remembering that a majority of the electorate voted against him. A Cabinet far to the right of the mainstream promises only to exacerbate the conflict and ire that our country is rapidly succumbing to.

What we’re doing isn’t working. As Einstein said, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insane. Sadly, no one in our political system seems to have the ability or wherewithal to respond intelligently and empathetically to what’s happening. The system and the people within it are clearly incapable of making things better. That leaves the rest of us with an opportunity. If there’s to be healing and better days ahead, we require new thinking, new ideas.

Creating Balance Part 2 – The Grounding Breath

In his piece on Friday, Ben talked about helping to control the effects our new world reality has on each of us mentally, emotionally, and energetically. Moving forward, the ability to ground, protect, and stabilize our personal energy fields will be the foundation for creating a balancing force within our communities, the country, and eventually the world.

Essentially, the techniques he shared are designed to help us ground and create stability. Today, I want to share a breathing technique that will help you remain grounded and can be accomplished anywhere and in only a couple of minutes.

The Grounding Breath

This exercise can be done sitting, standing, or even walking. Initially, I would recommend trying it while sitting in a regular chair. Not only will it be easier to read and follow the directions, but it will become easier to recreate in times of stress, and then you can play with it in other positions once you are comfortable with the technique.

To start, find a comfortable position and center.

Take a couple of centered breaths.

As your body begins to relax, feel your feet against the floor and your body in the chair.

This connects you to the here and now. This exercise is not designed as an escape. Being present is essential.

Close your eyes and visualize dropping hollow tubes from your feet deep into the earth.

The circumference of the tubes is a personal choice. Start with them somewhat narrow and gradually widen them as you become more comfortable. Also, some people find a third tube, dropped from the tail bone, adds some stability and helps balance the flow of breath.

Take 3 centered breaths. On the third breath, exhale down through the tubes until the breath is deep in the earth, relax and let the inhale happen naturally.

We focus the exhale into the earth to help cleanse the energy of the breath. The earth will filter and balance the energy of the breath and bring a sense of stability to the body.

Practice this exhalation through the tubes into the earth 10 times.

We focus on the exhales because in times of extreme stress and discomfort it can be extremely difficult to have an open flowing breath. Notice that your ability to inhale and create flow becomes easier with each exhale.

Re-center and feel your feet against the floor, the chair against your legs, and the increased sense of flow within your body.

Obviously, this breath can be done anywhere. I highly recommend that you practice it several times a day and in many different situations. It is essential to practice this BEFORE you are stressed and energetically compromised. Remember, this technique is simply a tool. For it to be useful you must be confident in the process.

Allowing Balance

I’m politically liberal, and I live in a particularly liberal part of America (Boulder, Colorado), so I acknowledge I live in something of a bubble. Now, I might be wrong about this, but I am guessing that unless you were an enthusiastic Trump supporter and are surrounded only by enthusiastic Trump supporters, you’ve been aware of and perhaps been challenged by the feelings that have come up after the election. The levels of acrimony, conflict and distrust in our country have soared to heretofore unseen levels, and I can see that it’s affecting people, irrespective of where they’re living or their particular political affiliations.

If you’ve found yourself struggling with surges of unpleasant feelings and emotions since the election–despair, hopelessness, anger, disdain for those who think differently from you–know that you’re not alone. Even if the outcome of the election was to your satisfaction, we tend to resonate emotionally along with other people, and emotions, throughout our country, are running extremely high.

However, there are ways to moderate the effects that everything that’s going on has on your sense of balance and center. Here are four techniques that I find helpful.

1. Limit or eliminate media, especially commercial news media and social media.

The major problem with most media in our culture, be it old media like newspapers, magazines, and television, or new media like Facebook and Twitter, is that it’s commercial in nature–it derives its revenue from advertisements. On a fundamental level, you get the information you want–football game, sitcom, news, whatever–by trading some of your time and attention to someone who wants to sell you something.

All of these forms of media make more money the more eyeballs they can aggregate onto their content. And what grabs and holds our attention tends to be things that stimulate the emotions. Thus even the so-called “news” media, ostensibly reporting “facts,” has an incentive to report things that excite the emotions (i.e. generally “bad” news) and to do it in such a way that it amplifies rather than depresses those effects. This is why so much news seems so sensationalistic: because it is.

Furthermore, the effectiveness of an advertisement is much higher when it reaches a psyche that’s out of balance. A centered person will tend to be more shielded from the emotional manipulations that are part and parcel of how advertisements work. So commercial media has an incentive to keep you from center.

Please note that I’m not asserting some grand conspiracy. Rather, I’m pointing out something that simply emerges naturally from a for-profit model in a competitive environment. The media that aggregate the most eyeballs and deliver them most effectively to their advertisers will make the most money. And that will naturally tend to be the kind of things that incite high emotions. There’s a reason media companies pay such enormous sums for the broadcast rights to sporting competitions.

Media in which the costs of participation are particularly low (in both dollar and effort terms) tend to be the most poisonous of all. Twitter and Facebook can be particularly destabilizing. It costs someone nothing to write a repulsive tweet or an agitating Facebook post, but the emotional effect on an audience can be profound.

I recognize that staying away from news media can be especially challenging for people. “But how will I stay informed?” people ask. I’ve asked this question a lot myself. I’ve found it really helpful to ask, of any story I’m considering reading in the news media, “In what way does this piece of information impact my life?” If you take that perspective, you’ll quickly notice that the vast majority of what fills our newspapers, magazines, and television screens is nothing more than unsettling noise. It has no real bearing on our lives at all. But our limbic systems evolved in a world in which any information we were given from an outside source (“There’s a pride of lions in the tall grass over there!”) was apt to be immediately salient to our lives and, often, to our very survival.

2. Take a hot bath.

If you cut down a tree, it’s no longer a tree; now it’s just wood. If you kill a cow, it’s no longer a cow. But water is ever and always water. On a profound level, water is substantially imperturbable. A placid pool of water has the ability to wash off the harsh vibrations of a frenetic world.

Submerging ourselves in water will tend to smooth out and slow down volatile emotions, and relaxing in heat is extra calming. (Hence saunas, hot tubs, and steam baths.) Also, there’s never really anything much to do in a bath–you’re pretty much forced to slow down and stay in one place for a while, which alone can help settle the system. (If you’re inclined to read in the bath, bring along a book, not your phone or tablet.)

A bath is a really simple form of self-care. Don’t be afraid to indulge yourself.

3. Go for a hike in nature, especially among mountains.

The natural world has its own vibrational patterns. The more unspoiled a natural space, the less human energy there, the easier it is to experience nature’s energy. Thus a hike in a forest is more calming than a walk in a park, and both are better than jogging down a busy street.

The Earth is a giant sink for negative energy–there’s a reason we call generally unflappable people “grounded”–but there’s something especially powerful about mountains, places where the ground becomes figure, as it were. Maybe it’s that mountains demand our conscious attention. Too often we lose sight of the Earth as we walk upon it, but you’re not going to fail to notice the slope you’re walking up.

It takes no special training to let the ground ground you. Just go somewhere where your attention can let go of the ephemeral comings-and-goings of humans and meet nature in all its stability and beauty.

4. Center and breathe.

Once you learn to do it, the ability to center is something that’s with you literally everywhere you go. If you find yourself succumbing to deep levels of stress for whatever reason, give yourself permission to step out of the situation for just long enough to find your center and breathe for five to ten breaths. It takes little time, but the effects can be profound.

The techniques (if you can even call them that) that I offer here are all extremely simple to do, but the effects can be profound. If you find yourself struggling, try them. They can only help.

One final thing: during these trying times, do not intentionally scrimp on sleep.

Creating Balance

Creating Balance

Last week, I talked about using TTW and the principles that it’s founded upon to help create a stabilizing force to bring balance to our ailing nation.

The first part of creating balance is being centered. This week, in preparation for beginning a meditation practice, I thought I would review how to center when seated.

Seated Center

Wherever you find yourself reading this – take a minute, notice where your feet are. Notice your posture. Where are your shoulders in relation to your hips? Is your breath deep or shallow? Are you breathing consciously or unconsciously? How aware are you of your surroundings?

Now take a minute, put your feet firmly on the ground hip-to-shoulder width apart.
Have your knees bent 90 degrees.

Sit up so your shoulders are directly over your hips.

Now, gently raise your diaphragm – notice how your shoulders drop when you do this.

Relax your feet by wiggling your toes and letting your arches soften. As your feet relax your legs will relax.

Now, take a nice easy breath up through your hips and into your upper chest and shoulders. Did your breath rise? Try it again.

Notice your breath as it moves up through your pelvis, past your belly button, through the diaphragm and into your upper chest. Now, take another easy breath. Allow yourself the luxury of feeling what an open flowing breath feels like.

When your breath flows freely from your pelvis into your upper chest and shoulders you are CENTERED.

Centering when seated is the starting position to begin a meditation practice.

Practice maintaining this position and focusing on your breath for 3-5 minutes once or twice per day. Next week I will introduce some basic breathing and visualization techniques to begin the meditation practice.

Gratitude

In thanksgiving:

I am grateful for the work I’ve gotten to do with Jerry. I am grateful at how transformative I’ve found our work together to be. I am grateful that I can look at my life before and after and see how much better things are now. I am grateful that my exploration of the TTW principles takes me outside to play. I am grateful for soccer and golf and tennis and mountain biking. I am grateful for skiing and snowboarding. I am grateful to be in a place with great weather and great natural beauty so that I want to be outside every day. I am grateful for having a teacher as adept as Jerry, someone who is inclined to experiment, to play–this is how TTW came to be, this is why it has worked. I am grateful to the clients we have worked with so far. I am grateful for the clients yet to come.

I am grateful that our idea worked, and I am grateful to have learned that change is more complicated than I thought. There is no magic switch here. Our patterns do not just go away. I am grateful to have seen that truth so clearly through this year of exploration. And I am grateful, deeply grateful, that change is possible.

Change is always possible.

Moving Forward

Last Wednesday evening, Ben and I took a long walk and talked about how to move forward with TTW in the post-election world that we now live in. By then, I was in a better state of mind and ready to begin exploring this new world that has been thrust upon us.

To truly understand what is needed, I think it is necessary to take a brief look at how we got here. Over the last 16 years or so, I have watched as our political parties have become completely polarized. As the right became more conservative, the left responded by becoming more liberal. Now, I’m not going to get into who’s right and who’s wrong. I’m simply talking about the energy dynamics involved when two opposing forces become polarized.

Many years ago, the Democrats and the Republicans could agree on what the issues were, they just disagreed on how to fix them. Over the years, people within the power structure realized that by creating conflict between the parties they could separate and divide the American people. By dividing us, they could control the government and keep themselves in power perpetually.

As the parties got further and further from center, the base of that power – we, the people–became weaker and weaker. Heading into this election, I felt that the people’s power base was the weakest I have ever seen in the 51 years that I have been alive.

It’s no wonder that Trump’s slogan of “Make America Great again” appealed to so many. What he was promising, whether he knew it or not, was a returning of power to the base (the people), and a drawing it away from the powers that be. That message of returning the power to the people was so strong that it didn’t matter that he’s not only unqualified for the job, but that for all intent and purposes, he appears to be a despicable human being.

As I watch him appoint his cabinet and prepare to assume control, it seems obvious that he’s aligned himself with the ultra-conservative right and that this dividing of the people will be greater than ever. If he was actually going to return power to the people, his cabinet would be much more diverse and not filled with hatemongers, ultra-conservatives, and known racists.

This is where TTW comes in. We are going to create a balancing force to help stabilize our country and pull energy from both the left and right back towards the center. As much as I’d like to protest, riot and create a resistance movement, right now what we need is to create stability.

TTW and the Election

Jerry’s piece this week took me by surprise. We both took the election really hard, but Jerry is usually so grounded that I expected his shock would wear off over the weekend, and he’d return to something like normalcy. So I was certainly surprised by the continued note of despondency in his piece.

As the days go on, however, I’m becoming more and more aware that there is not and will not be a return to normalcy, not as we knew it, on this side of this election. The political divisions between red and blue have been getting sharper for years, but this election was so divisive, and the sense of recrimination, disgust and betrayal so deep, that our society seems to have split asunder.

We have been talking here about how the purpose of TTW is not primarily to make ourselves or our clients into better athletes. That’s just a side effect. Rather, we’re engaging in concrete, embodied practices with the goal of becoming better people.

So now the universe has seen fit to give us a new playing field–one with the highest of stakes–to really test the TTW principles. What does “better people” mean in a divided nation? What does “better people” mean in a country in which the legitimacy of our governmental system is breaking to pieces before our eyes?

If TTW is more than just talk–and it is–then here is where the rubber hits the road. It may look like we’re trying to be better golfers, or tennis players, or whatever. But by practicing being in the present moment, not fleeing from what is, we become more skillful at living in this challenging world.

Change

I’ve tried hard to write Training Tiger Woods part 4 this week. It just didn’t seem to matter in the wake of the election results. For the first couple of days, I walked around feeling like I had witnessed 9/11 all over again. I remember those feelings of shock and disbelief alternating with rage towards my fellow man that marked the days and weeks after 9/11.

As I watch the president- elect fill his cabinet with ultra-conservatives and hate-mongers, I keep asking myself, “How could we do this to ourselves?”

But, as they say, life goes on. Because I cannot simply uproot my life and leave this country and its troubles behind, I must find a way to find balance and help those around me try to create something positive from this madness.

How? I’m not sure yet. But for now, I’m going to start at the beginning. I’m going to center and breathe.

My Experience with Moving from the Athletic Model

While I’m not a Tiger Woods-level athlete (to say the least), I had a substantial history with weight-training when I first started working with Jerry. I started lifting weights as a freshman in college, got certified as a personal trainer in my early 20s, and have included weight-training as part of my exercise routine throughout my adult life. I had my first session with Jerry at the age of 40, so at that point I had been involved in weight-training for literally more than half my life.

In our first session, we started with centering and the breath, and then Jerry explained to me the problems with the athletic model of training. We went out to the weight room, and Jerry instructed me on how to lift with a focus on breath and feeling. The intensity of the workout was less than I was used to–no more sets to failure–but Jerry explained that I’d be able to work out more frequently, because the lower intensity meant I didn’t need a day off for recovery.

Jerry sent me off with the instruction to practice, and so I did. I worked out nearly every day. I was not suffering from physical injury when Jerry and I started, but the relationship between myself and my body was definitely askew. To my fascination, it wasn’t long at all before that started to change.